1 in 8 couples of childbearing age will experience infertility in their efforts to grow their family.
Infertility is “a disease of the reproductive system defined by the failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months or more of regular unprotected sexual intercourse.”
I recently read that the World Health Organization is revising the definition to include both single persons and same sex couples, making it more inclusive.
If you or your partner (or both of you) are experiencing infertility, it can truly be one of the most heart wrenching experiences you will ever endure. How do I know? Well, I experienced it myself, for 5 arduously long years. My story has a happy ending (two actually) but that is not always the case. I have since been passionate about helping others through this difficult chapter.
Not being able to conceive a longed for child can really try your spirit, your body, your relationship and in many cases, your wallet. It's not uncommon to suffer from clinical depression while enduring infertility. Relationship conflict, isolation from friends, isolation from society, financial worries, anxiety about fertility treatments and let's not forget about the GRIEF of it all. Grief over not being able to conceive the way *everybody* else can (Bobby just looks at Susie and bam, she's pregnant! Ugh!), grief from any miscarriages, grief from life not turning out the way you thought it would, grief from being the only member in your family to not provide grandchildren...it goes on. I don't mean to go on and on, but I want you to know that if you've come to this page, that I HEAR you and I GET it. You deserve a safe space to vent, share your heartbreak, and learn how to live with infertility. Maybe you will end up conceiving via ART (assisted reproductive technology aka fertility treatment), or maybe you will go the route of adoption. Some eventually find their way to embracing a childfree life and some will eventually "spontaneously" conceive (and no it's not because they "just relaxed"!!!) I can help you navigate these tricky waters in terms of deciding what is right for you and your partner.
Unfortunately there are not many people out there that are able to support their loved ones while they are going through this. Though usually well-intentioned, friends and family often say things that can be ignorant if not extremely hurtful. This only drives the sufferer more into shame and silence. I can help you learn how to field these comments and learn how to ask for the right kind of support.
You do not have to go through this alone. Counseling can help you manage the stress that comes with this diagnosis. Call today for a free 20 minute consultation, I'm happy to answer any questions you may have.